Your Worth

Monday, December 1, 2014

This is a post on worth. Yes, YOURS. Hence the title... and I'm pretty sure you all got that haha. But what you may not know is that though this may be a huge mind dump - I can't believe I just typed that either - I feel like it's SO important for me to address this - because at least 90% of the time, when I'm driving myself crazy, or I find myself frustrated or upset, it's related to this very topic. (Surprise fun fact: I also specialize in run on sentences.)

I've gotten to the point where I've realized that social media is currently the best vehicle I have to communicate what I'm passionate about with the world. And that's perfectly fine with me because I'm going to use whatever I have to spread the truths that I know, if they can help someone in some sort of way. Someone who wants to be understood or wants to make a difference or wants to know that it's okay to believe in themselves when it doesn't seem that anyone around them feels the same. And maybe I'm able to confidently write about this because I know that there are at least a handful of my close friends - actually I think including family at least a solid 15 people who would hold me accountable to the woman I am and the worth I possess. And maybe you don't currently have someone in your life right now who could be that person for you. So if this is you, please let me the person to remind you of how valuable you are and exactly what it is you deserve in this life.

You deserve to be treated with respect. Constantly. Infallibly. You deserve to be surrounded by people who love you and who you love. Who uplift you, who hold you accountable to cherishing and appreciating the valuable, beautiful soul you are, who hold you accountable to the things you've said you want to accomplish in this life, to the magnificent creation God has called you to be, and to the incredible potential He's placed within you. Yep, to all of these things. You deserve to experience unconditional love, despite your faults, mistakes, and imperfections. You deserve to experience freedom. To unapologetically be yourself. To exercise your right to say no to things you don't want to participate in and to stand up and to do so firmly for the things you feel are unjust. To experience the freedom of forgiveness. You deserve to feel like the most valuable gem on the face of the Earth because YOU are worth more than all of the rubies and diamonds that are ever to exist. You are worth more than all of the sparkling lights in the night sky. You are His greatest treasure.

click read more for the nitty gritty: let's get real.

Though I think about this constantly and it's been a desire of mine to write on this topic, while trying to keep calm and not just solely type "KNOW YOUR WORTH LADIES" repetitively throughout the entire post accompanied by little clapping emojis between every other word, an occurrence a few nights ago got me all stirred up again!

I was out a few nights ago celebrating the recent promotion and birthday of my friend Daniel, mentioned a few posts back. My friends and I were dancing as a younger man about my age attempted to join the circle dancing as well.  (Note: I use the word man begrudgingly.) My immediate reaction was to stop dancing and let said person pass on by as to say "We're good here, please feel free to move along." But this kid also stopped dancing, looked at me (with his man-boy posse of 1 behind him) and grabbed my wrist as to gesture for me to dance with him. Okay, there are so many issues with this such as numero uno, why does he believe that he has any right to touch me? Since my subtle initial response obviously wasn't enough for this fellow,  I pulled my arm away, politely smiled and said "No, thank you." You would have thought I disrespected his mother by the way he stopped, stepped back, with an appalled look on his face and looked me up and down as to say "Do you know who I am?!" and "You ain't nothin'" all at once. And as he walked away, I had to laugh to myself. And in recalling this story since, I've only laughed even harder. I laugh about this because it was so evident he hadn't the slightest clue who I AM. And no, not a blogger, or a business owner, or a college graduate. Not even a "strong, independent black woman who don't need no man" haha. But more importantly I am a daughter of royalty. It was so funny to me because he had absolutely no clue about how treasured and valuable I am. How sought after my heart is. About how much my Father loves and cares for me and the trajectory He, Himself has intricately planned for my life. About how He provides me with wisdom and discernment to know better than to even momentarily entertain myself with guys who obviously don't have the slightest idea of my worth and thus have no business approaching me. It was actually humorous to me because he looked at me as being absolutely nuts to miss out on a chance to spend a moment with him, when he was so blind, so unaware, so confused, and literally and figuratively in the dark.

And honestly, this is how many people are. In this life, there are going to be people who belittle you. Who don't respect you, your time, your talents. Who don't recognize your worth. Who may look at you or speak to you like you "ain't nothin'". Who may talk down to you or believe that you'll never amount to anything. Who don't have faith that there's an incredible plan for your life. Who don't see the value in you, in your heart, in your spirit, in your purity, in your beauty, or in your gifts. Unfortunately, in this life, there are always going to be people like this and that's why it's so important for YOU to know how valuable you are in His eyes and to believe it. To be unfazed by the "haters" and instead be enamored by how the eyes of God gaze upon you. You can't keep waiting for someone else to tell you how cherished you are or to find your worth in the words of a broken boy or family member or friend. God already has proclaimed His adoration of you and what He says to be true about you sets all other opinions to fall by the wayside.

Honestly, in retrospect, why I thanked this man-child, in any sense of the word, even in declining him, is beyond me. However, I am actually grateful for this experience because it prompted me to write this post and share with you all a little bit of my heart on the matter. I hope you read this and feel empowered. I hope you feel encouraged to stand up for yourself and others who haven't quite seemed to figure it out yet. I hope you are believing the things God says about you. I hope you know you are forever covered by His love and that He constantly desires to reveal more and more of His adoration for you every day.

with all I have,


  1. I adore you and your heart even though I've never actually met you. You're my blog go to on long work days for something pretty, encouraging, and feminine! Thanks for being awesome!

    1. Wow, that is so encouraging Victoria! What you just said is kind of the very essence of what I hoped this blog would become. So thank you so much for reading!!!

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    1. Anytime 3D3Y! I miss you. Pleeeease feel free to call or text me if you ever need to talk! Love you and your sweet face :*

  3. I just found your blog and wow, your words are so encouraging and true! Thank you for this!